Below the fold: keeping it casual while using less tongue

Spencer Allan Brooks

There comes a time in almost every college student’s life when they have to open up the dirtiest part of their body and join it with another’s.

Get your mind out of the gutter, I mean their mouth. That’s right, kissing, more specifically, making out. We’ve all done it (excluding the “never-been-kissed” crowd) and, for some reason, it has been synonymous with the collegiate sex life.

When a friend tells me they “hooked-up” I assume they mean some sort of penetration. Then, I immediately gasp at their confession of pre-marital sex, until they assure me that they only kissed on a couch. This really grinds my gears. There is a difference between hooking up and making out.

Nevertheless, there’s something about kissing someone for an extended period of time that creates a sort of recreational satisfaction, whether or not it leads to sex.

I have two friends who ended their Friday night of Spring Fling “trolling” the village to find people to make-out with. Doing laps around the village for that one goal may sound a little slutty, and borderline sad, but think about it: it’s just kissing. As long as everyone has already experienced mononucleosis, they’re set for some safe fun.

But, in a time where a night of holding a stranger or acquaintance to your face is considered a successful night, what makes someone a good kisser?

I’ll keep it simple: Use more lips, use your hands, use less tongue.

Philematology, the study of kissing, has been growing for quite some time and psychologists have found that, in general, there is a major difference in expectations from men and women.

A study done back in 2007 found that males’ attitudes toward kissing was more casual and look at making out as a precursor to sex, while females view making out as a way to assess partners.

Either way you look at it, making out seems to be an important part of many students’ weekend priorities.

Another tip: get comfortable. I’m just going to come out and say that alcohol can grease the wheels to a “successful” weekend. Keep in mind that you’re just as vulnerable as your tonsil hockey partner, so relax. No one is an expert on kissing. If someone tells you they are, they’re probably insecure.

Although you should be comfortable, don’t let it all hang out. You’re still trying to make an impression, hopefully. Situations where people get too relaxed can tend to lead to some pretty funny stories, which your partner will definitely share.

One of my female friends told me that while she was making out with a boy, he felt that it was ok to pass gas. Needless to say that was a short-lived relationship.

My freshman year, two of my friends, who had just met felt inclined to use the floor of my dorm room to “snog.” The next morning one of them divulged that he burped in her mouth, but at least they had a great time.

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Spencer Allan Brooks is a Senior at the University of Hartford and Art Director for The Informer. Aside from designing visual elements for the publication, he writes the weekly sex column, "Below the fold," and contributes to the entertainment and news sections. Spencer enjoys communicating with his readers and his more than 400 twitter followers.